Book Study Across the World

During one of my therapy appointments in preparation for his deployment, I was complaining that with Tony leaving again, we weren’t going to be able to work on our marriage at all.  I stated I hated feeling “in limbo”…just waiting around…not moving forward until he returned, and I wasn’t looking forward to doing it again.  My therapist asked if we like to read, to which I answered yes.  She suggested that we could perhaps do a book study together while we were apart.  It could connect us across the miles, and help me to feel like we were making progress at the same time.


I brought up the topic to Tony, and he agreed to do it.  He let me choose the book, and I settled on “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.  It is a book that we have had for a while, and haven’t read yet.  We put together a reading schedule of what chapters we would read when, and came up with a few questions that we would answer for each reading selection.  “Love and Respect” is a thicker book, and we spaced out the reading selections so it would take us through the entire deployment.  We were not sure of what his conditions would be like, so we waited until he was settled in over there to determine how exactly this would work.  We decided to email each other our answers to the questions instead of trying to have a conversation over the phone, just because of the expense of the phone calls.  We have completed 4 of the reading selections, and are about ¼ of the way through the book.


This is another way for me to be able to see the progress of time….the more chapters we read, the closer it is until he is home.  I think this is an absolutely fabulous idea, and I am so appreciative that my therapist suggested it.  Tony and I have read other books together, and so this is a natural extension of that.


What are some other ideas of ways that you have stayed connected while apart?

    • Meredith
    • November 4th, 2012

    This is such a great idea Amanda. Please let me know what you think of the book in general.

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